Good Morning Optimists!
I am back this week with new posts for you and today’s post is a inspirational one.
But first I have to ask…what are YOU scared of? Yep, what are you so afraid of that it’s holding you back from chasing your dreams?
Face it, we are or have been scared of something at one point or another in our lives. I think that our truest forms of fear kick in when we truly want to achieve something. I have found that when you are purpose driven, fear can be one of the biggest roadblocks on our journeys.
Since deciding to write and self publish my first book and relaunch my business, fear has done its best to take hold of me BUT, I made a promise to myself that this time around, I would defeat fear. I also knew that this time around, I would need a serious plan in order to conquer my fear. That plan inspired this post and why I am here to share with you my 5 creative steps to facing your fears.
1. DRAFT A PLAN: First, grab a notebook and a pen; dedicate a single goal to that notebook . Next, create your action plan. Reflect on what you want to accomplish? How you will accomplish that goal? And think about what you will need to accomplish your goal. During this drafting period, I recommend creating a SMART Goal or two based on what your desired accomplishment is.
2. SEEK A BUDDY: I learned from my days in the Army that the “buddy system” is a great way to keep you accountable and motivated. Select someone who you can trust to be your accountability partner and additional support and motivation. Schedule weekly meet ups to check in and talk about any issues that may arise while on your journey. Also know that your buddy doesn’t have to be someone who lives on your street, or a close friend you can also find a buddy through some of your strong, virtual friendships via social media.
My buddy just so happens to be my book editor too. We live in 2 different states however thanks to technology we can check in daily via emails and Facebook to ensure that we are staying on task and the right track. When I feel stuck or down and vice versa, we talk it out together and it’s a beautiful thing.
Having a buddy that not only helps keep you accountable, it also keeps you motivated AND it keeps our goals personal NOT public. Social media has turned us into town criers so to speak; we post almost every single thing that we do and feel. When choosing your buddy DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT post your search on social media. Chances are you instinctively know who you want your accountability partner to be, so go on, don’t be shy….ASK!
3. JUST DO IT! Don’t sue me, Nike but it’s true. You have your action plan, you have your accountability buddy, so let’s get started!
Sometimes the best (and not so creative) way to get over a fear is to just go out on a limb and take that leap which is exactly what I did when I decided to write my first book. Believe it or not, I had actually decided to write my book months- yes, MONTHS ago but my fear of lack of support, feeling inadequate and so forth halted me and made me second guess myself to the point that I almost didn’t write the book.
I had so many fears and they each had a strong hold on me but I knew what I wanted to achieve. I had a goal and wanted to make it happen no matter what the outcome.
One common thing that stops us from taking a chance on ourselves is everyone else. Suddenly, our friends on social media are subconsciously dictating our goals, we find ourselves comparing our successes from a friend’s like apples and oranges and if someone doesn’t like our status about how we just spent 2 hours doing something that really only matters to us, it’s the end of the world, right?
Close the apps, shut off your phones, set goals, find a buddy and take action. Don’t give fear time to settle in your mind, body and spirit, make moves and achieve your dreams.
4. DOCUMENT TINY WINS: Remember that notebook I talked in the beginning of this post? The one that should house your action plan? Skip a page or two and dedicate the rest of your notebook to tracking your progress and all of your achievements.
While on your quest to facing your fears, please know that everyday will not be perfect but that doesn’t mean that you can’t celebrate the tiniest of victories.
Every day, write down your tiny wins. Spent 20 minutes brainstorming blog posts for that website you always wanted to create?
THAT’S A WIN!
Called two potential clients?
THAT’S A WIN!
Woke up this morning.
THAT’S DEFINITELY A WIN!
5. WHEN FEAR HITS….REFLECT ON IT: Fear has a tendency to be a gigantic elephant in the smallest of rooms which is exactly why it should be acknowledged.
Yep, I said it. You can say it too.
Say it with me: ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR FEAR!
Don’t just acknowledge your fear verbally, do it visually and emotionally too. You can reflect on your fear in a variety of ways:
- “Dear Fear” Write a letter to your fear. Chances are it won’t be a love letter but simply acknowledging your fear and how it makes you feel is very important and needed in order to face them and accomplish your goals.
- Finish these sentences…
- I’m scared because…
- My biggest fear right now is…
- I’m second guessing myself because…
Be honest with yourself about your fears. It makes no sense to hold on to them because they will only hold you back. When reflecting on your fears think: ACKNOWLEDGE AND PRESS ON.
We have greatness to achieve.
Do you have a goal you want to achieve? Share your goal and one of the fears stopping you in the comments filed below.
Until next time, stay blessed and optimistic!
-The Enduring Optimist